Here Fogarty catches the longing of style three to “get in the game,” and to excel – play centerfield, the most important outfielder position. Then he betrays part of style 3′s motivation: look at me, I can do this.” The desire to excel is accompanied by a desire to be SEEN excelling. The high energy is the inner motor of style three, too.
See what you think:

Lisa Markhlouf sent me a song that reads much like a Four’s lament. Then if you listen to the music on YouTube that is Fourish also. The song is apparently Russian, as the comments are frequently in Cyrillic. Russia as a culture is quite 4ish, So this song is a 4 on three levels! Thank you Lisa!

[Gotye:]
Now and then I think of when we were together

Here’s the link to listen. And watch the video.

Like when you said you felt so happy you could die
Told myself that you were right for me
But felt so lonely in your company
But that was love and it’s an ache I still remember

You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness
Like resignation to the end, always the end
So when we found that we could not make sense
Well you said that we would still be friends
But I’ll admit that I was glad it was over

But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and I feel so rough
No you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

Now you’re just somebody that I used to know
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

[Kimbra:]
Now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over
Part of me believing it was always something that I’d done
But I don’t wanna live that way
Reading into every word you say
You said that you could let it go
And I wouldn’t catch you hung up on somebody that you used to know

[Gotye:]
But you didn’t have to cut me off
Make out like it never happened and that we were nothing
And I don’t even need your love
But you treat me like a stranger and I feel so rough
And you didn’t have to stoop so low
Have your friends collect your records and then change your number
I guess that I don’t need that though
Now you’re just somebody that I used to know

[x2]
Somebody
(I used to know)
Somebody
(Now you’re just somebody that I used to know)

(I used to know)
(That I used to know)
(I used to know)
Somebody

The Beatles: “When I find myself in trouble, Mother Mary comes to me. Speaking words of comfort, ‘Let it be, let it be.’”
This captures some features of style Nine: a baseline search for comfort, a passive or at least receptive attitude and perhaps even the fatalism that plagues some Nines. And if, as some say, “Mother Mary” is marijuana, that makes even more sense. Weed may be what the rest of us use to feel like Nines once in a while.

I asked the “crowd” for examples of songs that illustrated an Enneagram habit. Here is the first suggestion from Deborah Pollard. The song is “I’m sexy and I know it, I work out.” The lyrics that reveal the preoccupation with being seen — a Three focus — are as follows:
I’m sexy and I know it
When I walk on by
the girls be looking like damn he fly
I pay to the beat, walk in on the street
with in my new freak, yeah!
Girls, look at the body (X3)
Girl look at that body — I work out (X3)
When I walk in the spot, this is what I see,
Everybody stops and they starin at me.
I got passion in my pants
and I ain’t afraid to show it.
I’m sexy and I know it.

What makes this tell-tale three is the focus on being seen by others as a form of validation.
Thanks, Deb.

On this blog I am desperately trying to be “hip” because it is getting harder with each new technological invention=gadget. But I appreciate a new internet tool: crowdsourcing. So with your indulgence, let’s crowdsource.
As you know, Tom Condon wrote The Enneagram Movie Guide to illustrate enneagram styles. Then Judith Searle wrote The Literary Enneagram illustrating enneagram styles. So now, with much less fanfare, I would like help in compiling songs that illustrate enneagram styles. It can be any music from Wagner’s 8ish thunder to Garth Brooks self-pitying 4 “I’ve got friends in low places.”
You can either comment here or even better (because I get so darn much spam) send your song suggestion to me on my regular e mail. coach@fairpoint.net
If you want to go the extra mile, tell me where to find it on Youtube.
Then I will publish this enneagram audio information for all the subscribers. (I have about 100 now).
Example: Jim Croce sings “Bad bad LeRoy Brown. The chorus sounds 8ish to me: Bad bad, LeRoy Brown, Baddest man in the whole damn town. Badder than ole King Kong. Meaner than a junkyard dog.
I can hear several 8′s muttering. “So you got a problem with that?”

Sevens fear confinement on many levels, so jobs that do not allow novelty and flexibility will not work well. Jobs like data entry, or tax law or even teaching to the rules of No Child Left Behind will feel like a prison. We will escape in a variety of ways: often blowing off the rules or authority, or “reinterpreting” (read: reframing) them. Booze, computer games and intermittent absence are common escapes.

As some of you know, I write this blog from a small town in Kansas. So I thought I would help Enneagram studies by sharing with you how to tell the Enneagram styles of the rednecks in my area.

1 – You see them washing their off-road pickup they go mudding in.
2 – They bring beer AND ice in a cooler when they come to visit.
3 – Their double wide has a new coat of paint.
4 – They wear black hats and bling while they listen to country music
5 – Guess who only checks out books about NASCAR at the library?
6 – They warn you of the UFOs and have seen them.
7 – Their yard has four cars and a truck that share parts.
8 –They drive with the conviction that the largest vehicle has the right of way.
9 –They get arrested for being on pot even when clean.

Enneagram teachers often ask if it is necessary to use the Enneagram vocabulary when presenting in a business situation. Today I read a book, Positive Intelligence, which bases itself entirely and gives no credit or makes any reference to the Enneagram. Positive Intelligence, by Shirzad Chamine describes the nine “saboteurs.” See if you recognize them:
Judge/stickler, pleaser, hyper-achiever, victim, hyper-rational, hyper-vigilant, restless, controller and avoider – in that order. Mr. Chanine is the CEO of CTI, the largest coach-training organization in the world.  Wanna know the secret of his success?  You heard it here first.
The book is about moving from the low side of your style to the high side of your style. Your ability to do that is your “Positive Intelligence. He has some simple coaching techniques and I think some of them will work. He is not as effective as he could be because he assumes that rational self-talk will get you out of your enneagram fixation. We who prefer a more holistic approach (bodily exercises, poetry, music, hypnotism, symbolic intervention, ritual and suitable beverages) find his consciousness-only approach a bit narrow. BTW, he does have a touching story about the day he discovered he was a One.

Sixes fear to go to the top. Sixes are usually more comfortable in middle management –they’re naturally the people who make bureaucracies work. They usually don’t want the top slot, they would sonner support the decision than make the hard decisions. There are probably lots of exceptions – I just haven’t seen them.

Fives often speak about not wanting sales jobs. If the job includes schmoozing and making small talk, they are right not to want those kind of jobs. Their currency is information, so if they are asked to be in a social setting in which there is no discernible information, they don’t feel they either have much to contribute or gain. Also, having little or no information to exchange, they often feel socially awkward. For further research, see Mitt Romney. Everyone wonders why such a bright person says so many awkward things. My guess is that he is a Five. He should be a consultant, not the upfront man. Fives take note.