Issues

I don’t have issues. I behave badly or I feel strongly about or I’m upset about the way you or they or both behave. When we talk about our Enneagram style, we can easily slip into abstract nouns that don’t have any obvious or helpful link to experience. If someone says she is a 7, that neither excuses or adequately explains what she is talking about. Instead, your response, especially if you are a coach, therapist, friend or family, is “How do you do your seven defense?” Do you escape and how do you escape? Or, “How do you deny, rationalize, reframe or otherwise muck up the communication process? How do you do that?” Maybe you’re not a seven, just grotesquely immature!
When we use the Enneagram as a defense, a common way we do it, is to describe ourselves in these abstractions. Issues or fixations or even neuroses need to be dragged, with the help of transitive verbs, into the real world of action and experience.

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